[This is a repost of a blog I orignally posted on Facebook in March. In honor of the Rihanna interview tonight on 20/20, I've decided to bring it back out to offer clarity on this who situation. Enjoy the blog that put me on the map. Please, excuse the vulgarity...fore I was passionate when writing.]

So I wanted to say a quick word about this Chris Brown and Rihanna mess. And I invite comments so please chime in with your thoughts; I’d love to hear them. Forget the fact that yesterday the Congress passed a bill with the largest dollar amount attached to it, no no; let’s talk about Chris Brown and his alleged situation with his fiancée – That is what a lot of people are thinking about. Me personally, I wanna know when I am getting that next stimulus check, for how much, and where else is the tax money going? And will there be regulations this time to make sure the banks lend money rather than keep it for themselves. But this Chris Brown thing warrants some attention. If for no other reason than because most of Brown’s adoring fans are in the 8 year old to 16 year old age bracket. And most of those fans are young women. What would you do or what would you say to your 12 year old daughter who loves Chris Brown and listens to his music? Would you let her continue to do so? Would you talk about this incident? We should pay it some mind here.

I am currently reading Tony Dungy’s new book, Uncommon, where he challenges young men, particularly young Black men to make smart decisions when they are young so that they don’t pay the price for poor decisions when they are older. He talks about integrity, honesty and self-worth. We’ve seen a lot of young men make poor decisions in the past couple of weeks, or admitted to doing so; Michael Phelps (Smoking weed in London at a party), Antonio Margarito (Stuffing plaster in his boxing glove), Alex Rodriguez (Taking steroids from 2001 to 2003), and now Brown. This is a time where we can teach kids that they need to make the right decisions in life. We can use this incidents to say to children and teenagers that they need to think before they act or speak. Because once we perform an action or say a word without thinking about the consequences of doing so, we’ll soon regret it.

Now, to focus on Brown, I am not much of a fan of Brown. I am not a hater, but I never cared for the guy. I mean, he was doing his thing and that’s great. I wished him nothing but success and I thought that he had a great career ahead of him. I didn’t think he really sung well, which was the only reason that a hookup with Rihanna made sense cause she can’t sing great either. But let me digress. There is a lot being said regarding what exactly transpired late Saturday night but regardless of what the facts were, Chris Brown was stupid on that night; point blank, period. I don’t care what he and girlfriend were arguing about…first let me start at the beginning of this thing, he aint have no reason being engaged to her to begin with. Come’ on; he’s too young and too rich…he aint staying with Rihanna – He got too many options. Chris Rock said it best when he said that “A man is as faithful as his options.” He was right. Chris Brown in a nice looking dude, no homo. So chicks want this guy, and he can sing, somewhat…and he can dance. Girls love a brotha that can dance. He got mad options and to strap himself with one chick wasn’t wise. I’m not trying to say that a steady relationship was a bad thing but let’s be real about this. That’s number 1. Number 2 is that even if the thing went down the way that they said…he got a text, she started spassing out and threw the keys to the Lamborghini out the window, all that action warrants is a “Bitch, are you crazy?” That’s all he should have said. Now ladies, you know that you can take a dude there with y’all mouth and whatnot, trying to test a brotha. It’s happened to me, like it has with other dudes, but the fact remains that Chris should have used greater restraint.

Here is what happened…They were at a party, Chris left the phone down, Rihanna looked through his phone and saw the text…she was quiet all night…He wanted to know what was wrong and she was like “don’t touch me, I’m fine,” he tried to save face so he initiated their departure from the party and they got into the car and here is how the rest of the conversation went (Let me apologize now on behalf of Chris and Rihanna for the vulgarity of the language):

CHRIS: Yo what is wrong with you?

RIHANNA: Who the fuck is this calling your phone?

CHRIS: Who?

RIHANNA: Nigga, Who is this bitch texting you?

CHRIS: What Bitch?

RIHANNA: This Bitch…..talking bout she’ll see you later, don’t fuck with me Nigga, you know what the fuck I am talking about

CHRIS: Yo you need to relax man, that was just some bullshit

RIHANNA: No the fuck it wasn’t, who the fuck is she?

CHRIS: Yo man calm the fuck down!

RIHANNA: Fuck you, don’t tell me to calm the fuck down, you trying to fuck another Bitch? What you was gonna get her in this Lamborghini huh? Is that what you rented this shit?

CHRIS: What the fuck was you doing looking at my phone anyway?

[Pause in the car]

CHRIS: And don’t worry bout why the fuck I rented the muthafucking car!

RIHANNA: Fuck you Chris. {Pause} You won’t be taking her out in this shit, oh no.

[At this time Rihanna takes the keys and throws them out the car. Now here is the critical moment where Chris makes the wrong decision. Here is the reaction that Chris probably gave]

CHRIS: Go get the keys

RIHANNA: No!

CHRIS: Bitch I said go get the got-damn keys {Chris grabs her and proceeds to do whatever he did to her}

[Rihanna’s crying right now. Chris chimes in with a final word before he leaves the car]

CHRIS: Bitch don’t you know I could really hurt you? You only weigh twenty pounds. And we aint even together right now. Fuck this, I’m outta here. You can have the damn car.

Now in the course of his anger, Chris could have punched, choked or did anything to girlfriend.  Then, he apparently leaves her in the car and goes about his business, probably pissed at himself and at her. for doing what he did to her. Personally, I wouldn’t be too shocked if Rihanna pulled a thin line between love and hate move and hurting herself to get a reaction from the cops and the fans. I mean, the media is putting a lot of misinformation out there. I don’t think anyone is actually sure of what really went down. Seasonjawea said it best when she told me that the publicist for RiRi and Breezy were doing an excellent job of keeping a lid on things. I agree. But now here is how I would have reacted…Lets take it back from Chris saying don’t worry bout why the fuck I rented the muthafucking car.

CHRIS: Don’t worry bout why the fuck I rented the muthafucking car!

RIHANNA: Fuck you Chris. {Pause} You won’t be taking her out in this shit, oh no.

[Here is what I would have done]

RAKEEM: Bitch, are you crazy? Why the fuck would you throw the keys outside the damn car? What the fuck are you thinking bout. {Pause} Get the fuck out the car then, you wanna act like that and throw out some keys, apparently, your ass wanna walk because the sound of keys starting an engine don’t appeal to you…so you can walk your skinny ass back to that party and I’ll talk to you when you got some sense.

Now see, that is how you handle that situation. No hands or violence…just real talk…Two key components here to my reaction:

1) The Question – Bitch are you crazy?

2) The Solution – Get the f&%$ out the car.

No careers would have ended; I would have dumped Rihanna, made a song about it and kept it moving. Here is what I would have been saying to myself once I was driving back to my hotel:

RAKEEM: My mom told me not to fuck with this girl, I don’t know why I didn’t listen…probably cause she don’t want me messing with no chick. But Daddy always told me to watch out for them Island girls…Should have listened.

I might have been without a girl, but only for a moment. There are plenty of other chicks on tour, and hell, he could have hollered at Lauren London or something. But Na, this dude went ahead and allegedly tried to really hurt her. And for what? A damn text? If your girl feels the need to check your phone to see who calling or texting you, that means 1 of 3 things: either she been cheated on one too many times, you look way better than her and she paranoid or you need to break up with her cause you still trying to play. Next time you hear about domestic violence, we won’t be thinking of Ike and Tina…rather RiRi and Chris Breezy.

So in closing, no matter what the story is, Brown’s career is in serious jeopardy. He lost endorsements, no more concerts for the time being and apparently Jay-Z is very upset with Young Breezy [That’s another story].

In the end, Chris Brown has made a terrible decision and over what? A text from a chick? Do I feel bad for him? Not really. The kid had the world at his feet. He was in movies, he took Usher’s spot, he could dance and he was rich. And it might be all gone. So no, I don’t feel bad for him. I got a job I don’t care for going to school at night so I can have some financial peace of mind in my 30’s and 40’s and this dude buying jewels at 19…no tears from me. But I will say this, I feel bad for the parents who have to explain his actions, and if nothing else, Brown should have to account for what he has done to the millions of young women who love him and his music. And he has steep hill to climb to make up from this fall from grace. Plain and simple, you gotta make the right choices, you must control your behavior and as a man, you can never let a woman make you mad enough to put your hands on her because you can put your hands on a woman…unless she got a gun and she aiming for your head….different story.

And let me also say this here, people need to stop expecting these young rich kids to be model citizens. On the one hand, yes, they should monitor their behavior, especially since they are in the spotlight and every move is scrutinized. But really, you give a 19 year old money and what do you think is gonna happen? It’s totally unfair to hold these kids (Brown, Phelps) to a higher standard because they are in the spotlight and folks admire them. You should hold all people their age to the same standard, no more, no less. If Chris Brown worked at a recreation center, with young girls and boys, society should hold him to just as high of a standard as they do now with his privilege and place in society and the world of entertainment. Same goes for Obama and any other “star.” Why should you criticize Obama more than me if we both cheated on our wives? Cause he’s the president and I only work at Rutgers? America is too consumed with its actors and entertainers. Too often we peek and point at their fuck-ups to feel better about our own mistakes in life. To shake your head at Brittney Spears for being a bad parent and yet you won’t even go to a PTA meeting. Something’s wrong with that. People more worried about this mother who had 8 kids on top of the six she already had, and they hardly worry about the one they got. All I am saying is that we need to use this incident not to point the finger at the actors and revel in their embarrassment and misery, but rather to teach our child how not to act and how to control one’s behaviors and emotions.

This morning, Seasonjawea said to me that Chris Brown was gonna be the next Bobby Brown cause of all this…I hope not…But unfortunately, I see the handwriting on the wall, The E-True Hollywood Story – When Celebrities Go Bad; such a shame.